I know this is an issue that every woman is a DD relationship will face. A situation arises, a decision has to be made, You talk and he listens to your opnion but chooses do it differently then you want. Yet the only way it will work is for you to get on board with him. So you tell him that you will follow his choice and do your best to make it work. Yet, you are terrified and very unhappy. So how do you accept it and do your best while feeling this way?
For me it has never really been a big deal in the past but this, THIS is different. THIS could change our entire family, how interact, the way we live EVERYTHING! It’s not a situation a spanking will fix. It’s not something I either choose to obey or not obey but something I have to choose to accept. I love J and am trying very hard and can see why he made the choices he made and I’m not angry. I’m not happy either, yet that’s okay but how do I accept this and do my best when I am hating it and am miserable at it?
yeap! we need to accept the changes in our life even if its hard. Not all things is in favor on what we like. Now i’ m in on the process of moving on though is hard i need to accept this fuck life. I, myself is the only one who can help this situation and of course i need some people to comfort me, I ‘m not a strong person like what they see, I smile, laugh out loud to hide the pain I’ve felt. I don’t know what to do, I don’t know how to start again.
Coming from the “Top” perspective — this is always a difficult position to be in. While I can’t personally vouch for J – or cast a more objective opinion regarding the decision that you both faced — how I approach decisions is to weigh everything and then chart the best possible course.
Now do I still screw up?? Of course I do.
But I also recognize that I’m personally responsible for what happens in our relationship and I take it very personally when things go awry. I’m sure J bears the same responsibility and has the same investment in your relationship.
Above all else – because you love J – you trust J – and you believe in your relationship together — the important thing to do is to be the supportive backbone that can be during whatever decision comes forth. I do believe it’s important for you *both* (not just you, not just him) to remain in complete communication about the issue. Clearly there are unresolved issues that could continue to affect your relationship from here on out.
Even though dominants generally employ: “Our word rules” mantra — if we are really serious about the relationships we’re in — we care about the nuance of communication and how it affects us both. If there’s a communication problem — it must be resolved immediately – period. Even if I don’t change my mind on a decision I’ve made – I can at least provide the assurance that it was well thought out and provide the reasoning for why the decision was made in the first place.
Not that any of this helps — I just thought I’d add a different perspective.
Good luck! I hope you both can mend whatever issue came up.
Regards,
-Michael
Michael,
That is very true. I know my thoughts and feelings are very important to him when he is making a decision. I also know he’s not perfect and that he might not always make the right choice but I do know that he keeps out best interests in mind at all times.
My life change every single day, i strive hard, i believe there is Lord Almighty that would come me up. There is always sunshine after a heartaches,painful past we experience. Listen to yourself,accept the gift of Lord and we will find peace in our heart.
loved,
I think you would do wonders in this situation to simply reinterate your trust in his judgement even when it is not your way. I’m not saying to devalue your own judgement and opinion, but any woman that shows that respect to her man will never want for his attention I assure you.